Are you the superhero of every story? Perhaps you are the one who helps everyone else. Or maybe you simply feel like if you need to ask for help, you are failing at what you need to achieve.
Many people use it as a point of pride – “I never had to ask anyone for help.” Considering it as a sign of strength.
But, when something happens that is out of your control, upsets you, or hurts you, you must be comfortable asking for help. It could be help from friends and family, it could be professionals like health care professionals, or you may need to let a personal injury attorney help you.
Here are some tips to help you feel comfortable asking for help and letting people help you.
It benefits you both
You probably get a great feeling from helping others, knowing that you have helped them achieve or do something. Well, they will get that same feeling from assisting you.
And, further to that, you get what you need from that help—letting people help benefits you both in so many ways.
The same applies when we volunteer our time, we can get a sense of doing the right thing because we helped.
You’ll need it
You might be the type of person everyone calls a superhero because you are so strong all the time. You tackle everything, run a business or have a job; you’re never late, and so on.
You handle everything all the time.
But you can only be so strong for so long before you will need to ask for help. It might be asking for someone to pick up the kids, or it might be that you need to be in three places at once.
If you never ask for help, and the first time you need it is a big favor – you’re more likely to hold your tongue and struggle.
Learn to ask for more minor things long before you need something big. It will make it much less awkward.
It might sound strange but asking your friends and family for help and giving them help in return builds stronger connections. Some of the people that you know will often seem to have everything under control, and they do this by being resourceful.
Offering help and accepting help as and when it is needed. It is no longer seen as a favor; instead, it is part of the relationship. You allow yourself to be more connected simply by being available to help and accepting help. A particular vulnerability and knowledge come with giving and receiving help.
It might be something simple like getting extra apples at the grocery store, but it might also be boring money, going with them to an occasion, or taking care of children for a few days.
Help comes in many forms, and it is essential that you learn how to ask for and accept help so that you no longer rely just on yourself. Instead, you build a resource network.
Learning to ask for help is just one of the many life improvements you can make; here are some more to consider: How You Can Improve Your Quality Of Life.
This is a collaborative post.